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11 Common Lies Addicts Tell
Addicts often lie. They do it for a number of reasons. In my experience, most of the lies are a form of denial. They are told by the addict because there is that fear of what being an addict means. These lies can be broken down into two basic categories, the first being the seven lies addicts tell themselves:
“I can quit whenever I want to.”Addicts choose this lie as a way of saying that they are not addicted because they have control over if they use or not. If you push them on it and ask them to quit, they can fall back and say they don’t feel like stopping right now. Of course, they also maintain that if things got out of hand, they could easily quit.
“I only do it to relieve stress.”Sometimes the addict uses stressors as a reason to use. And legitimately, in the short term, drugs and alcohol do reduce stress. Unfortunately, they don’t deal with the source of the stress and often make the situation worse. The addict doesn’t see this or refuses to admit it. If the stressors weren’t there, however, they claim they could quit.
“It doesn’t hurt anyone.”This lie is pervasive among addicts. Even if the addict doesn’t physically hurt someone by getting in a car accident while under the influence or lashing out violently during a drunken rage, that doesn’t mean that people aren’t getting hurt. There can be a serious emotional toll taken on the family. The addict may exhibit embarrassing behavior at social gatherings or miss functions altogether.
“The doctor prescribed the pills, so everything’s fine.”Since the pills were given by a doctor, they must be OK to take, the addict thinks. But that’s not always the case. Addicts aren’t always honest with their doctors and can manipulate the situation in order to get the drugs they need. Although doctors are trained to look for this drug-seeking behavior, they don’t always catch it. Sometimes, the addict will go to multiple doctors and clinics to get prescriptions and use different pharmacies to fill them. That way, they can get what they want without being caught by their primary doctor.
“I don’t do it all the time.”Just because someone doesn’t drink or use drugs 24 hours a day doesn’t make them not an addict. It is the extent of the drinking when it is done and the effect that it has on the addict and those around them that is the real determining factor. Even if the addict only uses every other weekend, if it is enough to cause problems in their life, then there is an issue.
“I know people who do it more often.”Just because someone does more drugs or drinks more alcohol than someone else, that’s not a way to measure an individual addiction. Again, it’s how the drinking and drugs affect day-to-day life that is the real measure.
“I don’t miss work.”Being able to go to work and function doesn’t mean that an addict is OK. Some addicts are aware that their jobs are the only reason that they can afford their addictions. In fact, sometimes the addict performs better at work out of the fear of not having access to the drugs or alcohol they crave at the end of the day. In addition to the lies they tell themselves, addicts have four lies they tell others on a consistent basis. These are the lies that they need to tell to hide the fact that they are using. Addicts that tell these lies know that what they’re doing is unacceptable to you, but they do it anyway.
Lying about usingObviously, if an addict knows you are not OK with drug or alcohol use, they will lie to you about it. Point-blank denial of use is common.
Lying about where they are goingThe addict will start lying about having to go certain places or stay late at work or may join a specific club that you can’t be a member of. These are common ways to create a time where you are not around and drug use can happen.
Lying about who they are hanging out withYou may find out that your addict is hanging out with a new group of friends or friends that you know are helping them score drugs and alcohol. You’ll get stories that don’t quite add up or timetables that are off when you start questioning the friends.
Lying about financial situationWhere is the money going? The addict has to find a way to pay for drugs and alcohol. If you can’t account for some of the money, there’s a good chance someone is lying to you about where it is going.